Does your sex life need a jump start? You’re not alone. Between work, kids, parental duties, house chores and money managing, many women are at the ‘Remember sex?’ stage. In fact, over 60% say their sex life has made a U-turn from ‘have fun in bed’ to one more thing to squeeze into a busy schedule.

When you think of sex, do you think of the movie The Notebook or Chanel N°5 The One That I Want new perfume ad? Such intimacy, you assume, is reserved for the women who would classify hand-held neck massager as vibrator. Your conclusion: You have better chances at winning Australian lottery than you do at improving your sex life.

But I know that you (and all women for that matter) – no matter how challenging it sounds – can boost your sex life. Forget about scented candles (not completely, though). Forget about sexual health doctors and counselors. I’ve read and analyzed their objectives like brokers analyze the market. What you need is something tangible to put the sizzle back in your sex life.

When I think about sex, I think of rediscovering your partner; bringing excitement back into your marriage; and simply having more fun in bed (no fear, no shame, no limits). The solution? Here are few ways you can improve and feel more satisfied with your sex life.

First things first – talk to your partner. Be honest about what you want; what feels good for you; your sexual desires and fantasies. You may find talking to your partner about sex difficult, but it is better than faking an orgasm. Remember, endless love does not mean great sex. Romance is something you have to work on. Constantly.

Explore. Your bedroom fantasies, that is. Try something new; include one or more sex toys (blindfolds, cuffs, vibrator or whips) or role play. Even though our society is still very hush-hush when it comes to sex, if something excites you and your partner, go for it. If you assume sex toys are just for porn movies and swingers, you can’t be further from the truth. Over 75% of Aussies use sex toys to spice up their sex life. Also, according to recent survey, one in five couples role play in bedroom. Why not give it a shot. If French maid or a naughty nurse makes you feel like a call girl, try something more on the subtle side (e.g. masseuse and client or repairman and homeowner).

Who says you’re too old to play with toys? Adult toys, that is. If a vibrator will enhance the pleasure of both of you, why not. Or maybe a simple blindfold will fire up your desires. Talk to your partner to see which pleasure toys will deliver sexual bliss. 70% of Australians own more than 3 sex toys. Yes, vibrator still reigns (over 80% of Aussies own and use a vibrator), but you can choose whatever pleases you. If you’re too embarrassed to even pass by a sex shop and not to mention walking in, go on a sex toys scavenger hunt online. 67% of Australians still prefer online sex toys shopping.

Try these recommendations and I promise you’ll be more satisfied with your sex life. Remember, health wise, sex is really, really good for you.